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Mary Catelli's avatar

An additional wrinkle -- in at least some places and periods where this held true -- was that your maternal uncle was liable to be of higher rank.

See *The Knight, the Lady and the Priest* by Georges Duby for details. You married off one son, to ensure an heir, and all the daughters you could, for alliances. This put the fathers of bridegrooms in a strong negotiating position, and most daughters had to marry below their birth simply to find one.

Your maternal uncle was therefore also apt to be your liege lord.

(Early medieval times only.)

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Colin Gorrie's avatar

That's extremely interesting, and this looks like a fantastic source — thank you for suggesting it! Maybe don't try "pull my finger" in those cases then...

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Sallyfemina's avatar

This still seems a bit true -- most of the men I know are closer to their maternal family than their paternal. Certainly in my husband's family, including his mother's brother and his children. Also true among his sister's children. Same with my best male friend's uncles.

My brother is still uncle to his ex-wife's niece and her kids even though he and the ex split up 25 years ago.

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Louis Fromage's avatar

So interesting. Thank you!

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Colin Gorrie's avatar

Absolutely! And I love the poetic understatement in that last bit — for those who don't know Old English, Beowulf is saying: "I wasn't any more hateful to [Hrethel] while he lived than any of his children"

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